MANIPULATING WORDS

XGC Kramer

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You ever catch yourself breaking a rule you set for yourself? Like, telling yourself you won't _____ until _____ happens, or you'll never try ______. Lol, i've even taken weeks to try and clearly decide what i should do in various scenarios....but sometimes, it just ends up as talk. It's sad when you can't even believe the words you're telling yourself, isn't it? Maybe they were words said in moments of weakness, when i was trying to avoid certain feelings or people; but whatever it was, the past week i've found myself seriously thinking against a previous decision i made only a month or so ago.

Words are all we have to communicate with, and they're the foundation of our "higher" level of thinking, which supposedly sets humans apart from the other inhabitants of the planet. If you meet a "feral child", a child growing up naturally within the wild without any interaction with other people; you'll meet an animal instead of what we've come to understand as a human being. Without language, a method of communication, we aren't able to create this higher level of thinking called "conception". Language is the key to that ability that we so often underestimate the value of, and it's the key we abuse the most.

Little lies such as what we ate, who we spoke to, what our feelings are, what we've done in the past, and what we plan to do in the future...things that may not even include the person asking the questions, are all stage-points for abusing this ability. Everytime you lie, you make it a little easier to do so again in the future. Each time a person hears a lie, they gain a false understanding of you or your situation. Every moment you tell something false to a person, you've distanced that person from yourself, whether it was on purpose or not.

A lie is any moment that your words manipulate the listener into believing something untrue; even if it's a partial truth, if the partial truth was told with the intention of not wanting them to hear the entire story, it's a lie! There are of course, moments such as surprise parties when your lie is for the purpose of more fun later on; but the trick of that, is you're planning on revealing the truth, and that truth will make them happier (in theory); so putting off telling someone you want to break up with them, or putting off telling your boyfriend that you're pregnant...those aren't moments it's "alright" to lie: same with you dumbass guys who sleep around and don't tell your girlfriend or wife when you go home. You're building a barrier between the real you, and the person who, at least at one point, as important enough in your life for you to single out and choose to date, or possibly even marry.

So...i kinda got off-topic of me, lol; but i doubt anybody minds. Simply put, my point was that words are easy to manipulate people with; even yourself, and it's especially easy to do so instinctively, without thinking it over hardly at all. In my opinion, the best lie is the lie undone shortly after; but i too know firsthand how hard it is to tell somebody you lied to them, especially when they're important to you. After you first lie, it's as though you're already in a trap you've laid out for yourself. Despite that, it's still best to break free right then; you just have to conquer your own worries and have faith in the person you're speaking to, and the impresion on them that you've built up over the time you've known one another.
 
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