I don't see how the rules are that hard to deal with either... Most of them just state things that the xbox live CoC covers anyway. Racism, calling out people, excessive threats or aggressive behaviour... all these things if reported to the xbox live PET will get you suspended anyway, if people can't agree to these how do they expect to cope over xbox live?
Sure, teabagging won't get you suspended over xbox live, but its just respectful not to do it. If somebody t-bags me in game I sure feel a fury creeping up in my throat, so why spread that feeling to others?
Even KoG members as low as 12 [I had a captain that was 12 when I was a gen.] will respect and like the honor code, so it surprises me an adult has an issue with it. Like others have stated, if the rules were too much there is always SYN, sure you can't run around like the devil over live in SYN, but the rules are less strict.
The honor code in place here is slowly making xbox live a better place. And I'm sure this other community you speak of has a very similar code to XG, so good like finding a great community that will fit your expectations. I sure missed XG when I left, none of the places I went had the same community feeling as here. Have fun riding solo.